10 Crucial Tips To Make Your Relationship Last Forever

Summary:

Sometimes in the hustle of everyday life, it's easy to forget to tell our loved ones just what they mean to us.  But don't be put off as it doesn't have to take a lot of planning.  Love is in the little details that make up our lives.

Keywords:

love letter, romance, touch, relationship gift tips, romantic, special occasion birthday treat, compliment dance

Do you ever feel like you catch up with your partner infrequently, often late at night when you’re too tired to speak?  Or when your timetables happen to collide?  There are work dinners, school outings, sporting practice, dinners with friends, homework to supervise, household chores and so the list goes on.  Do you feel like you need to make a date night just to spend some one on one time with your other half?  Time when you’re not sleeping? 

If this sounds like you then I’m sure you will enjoy these tips for keeping each other close at heart, even if you can’t always be as physically close as you’d like.  

Its all about communicating and sharing the little things that make up our lives.  Here are ten easy ways to make your feelings known:

1. Birthday love letter.  There is something powerful about a letter.  A few years ago my husband and I agreed to write a love letter for each other’s birthday.  I think I picked it up from a magazine article about Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise.  Apparently it’s something they used to do in lieu of expensive presents.  Obviously it didn’t work for their marriage but we’ve found it has become the part of our birthday celebrations that we enjoy the most. 

Writing down all the things that you love about the other person and then giving it to them is a very personal and thoughtful thing to do.  In many cases its better than any gift you could possibly imagine and something to appreciate and cherish even when the birthday is a distant memory.  You can do it for your children too if you have any and they will never need to doubt that you love them.   Of course, you don’t have to wait until it is your loved ones birthday to send them a letter – anytime is a good time to tell them how you feel about them.

2. Sit down and talk about your day.  When we can we sit down at the table to eat our evening meal and take it in turns to talk about what we did in our day.  Even our two and a half year old joins in.  For a long time he would talk about who he saw rather than what he did but now he’s getting the hang of it.  The other thing we take it in turns to do is name the best and worst things that happened that day.  Sometimes so much happens each day that it helps to pause and reflect on what were the highlights and lowlights.

3. Celebrate all your partner’s successes with them – from a high five to a glass of champagne.  Whatever the scale of the success calls for, make it a joint celebration. 

4. Allow yourself to be impressed by your partner and let them know.  ‘I’m proud of you’ is something that I think everyone loves being told by someone they care about.

5. Never underestimate the power of a hug – train your kids to hug you back.  My five year old son Jack loves hugs.  He loves giving them and getting them.  Sometimes he will spontaneously hug someone if he feels they are a bit sad, although usually he asks first if they would like ‘a Jack hug’.

6. Send them a photo that means a lot to you and tell them why its important 

7. Share an experience.  It could be a movie, a new CD, magazine article, or a short story.  Talk about what you read or saw and why you liked or disliked it.   And do it regularly.

8. Compliments.  Everyone loves getting them so never pass up the opportunity to give one of these reliable mood boosters.  You can give them in person or write them on a small piece of paper and leave them somewhere unexpected for your loved one to find.

9. Dance.  It doesn’t take long to find a great song you both enjoy, put it on and dance around the living room floor – probably 5 minutes maximum but it is a wonderful way to physically reconnect with each other in between dinner and desert or at the end of a long evening or you could make it an unusual way to start your day. 

10. Thoughtful gestures.  Doing something unexpected, especially when you’re loved one is busy and stressed, is a lovely way to show that you understand what they are going through and that they have your support. 

Showing your partner how much you love them need not take a lot of time and you will be rewarded many times over for your effort.  Get loving today! 

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7 Proven Ways To Improve Your Relationship( Very Important)

Summary:

Good relationships don’t just happen. I’ve heard many of my clients state that, “If I have to work at it, then it’s not the right relationship.” This is not a true statement, any more than it’s true...

 Keywords:

relationships, trust, bonding, love, marriage, marriage counseling

 The following are 7 choices you can make that will not only improve your relationship, but can turn a failing relationship into a successful one.

TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOURSELF

This is the most important choice you can make to improve your relationship. This means that you learn how to take responsibility for your own feelings and needs. This means that instead of trying to get your partner to make you feel happy and secure, you learn how to do this for yourself through your own thoughts and actions. This means learning to treat yourself with kindness, caring, compassion, and acceptance instead of self-judgment. Self-judgment will always make you feel unhappy and insecure, no matter how wonderfully your partner is treating you.

For example, instead of getting angry at your partner for your feelings of abandonment when he or she is late, preoccupied and not listening to you, not turned on sexually, and so on, you would explore your own feelings of abandonment and discover how you might be abandoning yourself.

When you learn how to take full, 100% responsibility for yourself, then you stop blaming your partner for your upsets. Since blaming one’s partner for one’s own unhappiness is the number one cause of relationship problems, learning how to take loving care of yourself is vital to a good relationship.

KINDNESS, COMPASSION, ACCEPTANCE

Treat others the way you want to be treated. This is the essence of a truly spiritual life. We all yearn to be treated lovingly – with kindness, compassion, understanding, and acceptance. We need to treat ourselves this way, and we need to treat our partner and others this way. Relationships flourish when both people treat each other with kindness. While there are no guarantees, often treating another with kindness brings kindness in return. If your partner is consistently angry, judgmental, uncaring and unkind, then you need to focus on what would be loving to yourself rather than reverting to anger, blame, judgment, withdrawal, resistance, or compliance. Kindness to others does not mean sacrificing yourself. Always remember that taking responsibility for yourself rather than blaming others is the most important thing you can do. If you are consistently kind to yourself and your partner, and your partner is consistently angry, blaming, withdrawn and unavailable, then you either have to accept a distant relationship, or you need to leave the relationship. You cannot make your partner change – you can only change yourself.

LEARNING INSTEAD OF CONTROLLING

When conflict occurs, you always have two choices regarding how to handle the conflict: you can open to learning about yourself and your partner and discover the deeper issues of the conflict, or you can try to win, or at least not lose, through some form of controlling behavior. We’ve all learning many overt and subtle ways of trying to control others into behaving the way we want: anger, blame, judgment, niceness, compliance, caretaking, resistance, withdrawal of love, explaining, teaching, defending, lying, denying, and so on. All the ways we try to control create even more conflict. Remembering to learn instead of control is a vital part of improving your relationship.

For example, most people have two major fears that become activated in relationships: the fear of abandonment – of losing the other - and the fear of engulfment – of losing oneself. When these fears get activated, most people immediately protect themselves against these fears with their controlling behavior. But if you chose to learn about your fears instead of attempt to control your partner, your fear would eventually heal. This is how we grow emotionally and spiritually – by learning instead of controlling.

CREATE DATE TIMES

When people first fall in love, they make time for each other. Then, especially after getting married, they get busy. Relationships need time to thrive. It is vitally important to set aside specific times to be together – to talk, play, make love. Intimacy cannot be maintained without time together.

GRATITUDE INSTEAD OF COMPLAINTS

Positive energy flows between two people when there is an “attitude of gratitude.” Constant complaints creates a heavy, negative energy, which is not fun to be around. Practice being grateful for what you have rather than focusing on what you don’t have. Complaints create stress, while gratitude creates inner peace, so gratitude creates not only emotional and relationship health, but physical health as well.

FUN AND PLAY

We all know that “work without play makes Jack a dull boy.” Work without play makes for dull relationships as well. Relationships flourish when people laugh together, play together, and when humor is a part of everyday life. Stop taking everything so seriously and learn to see the funny side of life. Intimacy flourishes when there is lightness of being, not when everything is heavy.

SERVICE

A wonderful way of creating intimacy is to do service projects together. Giving to others fills the heart and creates deep satisfaction in the soul. Doing service moves you out of yourself and your own problems and supports a broader, more spiritual view of life.

If you and your partner agree to these 7 choices, you will be amazed at the improvement in your relationship!

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Lack of Patience- Sad Love Story

A couple has been married for over 9 years plus without children.

Dave and Clara stayed with each other and hoped that they will have a child before their 10th year of marriage runs out.  They were under pressure from friends and family members to get a divorce; but they couldn't let go, because of the love between them.  

Months passed.  And one day, while Dave was returning from work, he saw his wife walking down the road with a man, the man had his arms around her neck and they looked very happy.

 For over a week, he saw the same man with his wife at various places. And one evening  while Dave was returning from work, he saw the  man giving his wife a kiss on the cheek at the front of their house, Dave was very angry and sad.

Two days later after a hectic day at work, Dave was taking water with a glass jug from the dispenser when the phone rang. He picked it up and the person said, “Hello dear, I'll be coming to your house this evening to see you as promised. I hope..... ".  Dave hung-up the phone. It was a male voice and he was sure the person was the man he had always seen her with.

 He suddenly became shaky with the thought that he has lost his wife to another man. The glass jug fell from his hand and shattered into pieces. Clara came running into the room asking, "Is everything okay?"

In anger he gave his wife a push and she fell. She wasn't moving or getting up. Dave then realized that she fell on the broken glass. A large piece of glass had pierced her. He felt her breath but there she lay lifeless. His wife was dead. In total confusion, he saw an envelope in her hand. He took it, opened it and was shocked by its content -it was a letter with a message;

"My loving husband, words cannot express how I feel. I have been going to see a doctor for over a week and I wanted to be sure before I give you the news. The doctor confirmed it that I am pregnant with a twins and our baby is due 7months from now. The same doctor is my brother who I lost his contact after our marriage. He has promised to take care of me and our baby and give us the best without collecting a dime. He also promised to have dinner with us today. I am putting this on your favorite chair in the sitting room for you to remember the day you proposed to me and I said "Yes" because I was so happy. Thanks for staying by my side". -Your loving wife. The letter fell from his hand.

There was a knock at the door and the same man he had seen with his wife came in and said, "Hello Dave, hope  I'm right? It's John, the brother of your wife and..." Suddenly, John noticed his sister lying in a pool of her own blood. He rushed her to the hospital and she was confirmed dead! Her twins baby gone. He lost everything. A pleasant surprise gone awry.

LESSONS

Do you think his wife take it a little bits far? What should the man have done in this situation?

Trust and patience are two important virtues required for a successful marriage. Maybe some will blame the wife for taking her A LONGER time to share with her husband what was going on. 

Regardless, this is a sad end to what could have been a superb testimony. Unfortunately in our world today, trust has become a scarce virtue. If the husband has been patient, he could have been the father of a twins while still having his wife alive.

Friends, be patient. Be careful not to jump into conclusion. The end result may change the course of your life. I also want to pray for someone reading this that may the spirit of error that makes a man to lose God’s plan for your life will not take a hold of your life. May you not be found missing when you miracle and blessing come ‘knocking’ at your door. Your life will not end in regret. Amen!

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TO LOVE AND TO CARE- EPISODE 5

So far, I have enlightened the world with my thoughts on jealousy and self-esteem. I want to clear up any misunderstandings that may have some male people thinking that I am targeting only women here. Jealousy and self-esteem issues also can imprison men as well as women. No one is excused from real human emotions. Emotions know no face, color, size or gender. There are two victims here, not just one.

I also feel that I have neglected to reveal how the other party involved in a relationship that suffers from jealousy or self-esteem issues also suffers.

A relationship is a partnership. It is a commitment made between two people, in that we will stand by each other through thick and thin. Unfortunately, when it is a jealousy issue, both parties are affected. We tend to focus on the person that is trapped in the prison of worry, more than the other person that is caught in the line of fire, partly because we need to free that side first, and then we can help heal the other.

Well I am going to share the other person’s prison of hell as well.

To be accused and mistrusted by the one you love is a hardship and a definite pain that one cannot bear for a long time. They eventually either walk away or take a stand and call out to you, (the attacker) to please stop; to please listen to what you are saying and accusing them of.

Time after time they try so hard to reassure you that they do love you and that they are not interested losing you for anyone else. They become worried that no matter what they say, you are already convinced that they have betrayed you in some way.

They wait for the shoe to drop. Sometimes it takes a few days, sometimes it drops immediately. They have to sit by and worry about when it will drop. They fear that this time; they will not be able to say the right thing. They will get even more irrational with what they say to you.

Nevertheless,

The neglect you put on that person through your jealous insecurities is as real to them as your feelings of being trapped in your prison of doubt. There are many scenarios as to why jealousy rises up inside people, but for the innocent ones that really do not ever do anything to trigger that fear inside you, they are the innocent victims. People that have come to the point of identifying their issues and have started to deal with them, please remember the other person that is there with you. They too need special attention, because they have shared your fears and your pain. In a much different way, never the less, they still ache.

Jealousy can destroy so many good things in ones lives. It can destroy our mate, through you; it kills the one thing that you love deeply. The worst part about it is that you allow it. You must stop. Would you take a gun and shoot your mate? NOT!! So then why are you allowing this emotion to torture what is so dear to you? I repeat, as long as your mate is not responsible for your fears or if they have made amends and are trying to make things better, and then please understand their pain of being mistrusted. When they see you in pain and they feel bad about it. Your mate loves you as much as you love them. And to feel they are responsible for your trapped feelings, eats them up inside. To see you smile and feel totally loved makes them feel good about themselves.

Also be careful not to fall into that habit of being unhappy through jealous feelings. Understand where they are coming from. Are you using them as a reason to get attention? Again, a wrong kind of attention. If you cannot get the right attention you feel you are lacking, then talk to your partner. Do not let jealous emotions take over and confuse what you really are trying to say. Any weakness in your mind is a direct route for negative feelings to travel through. Once they get there, they work very quickly at bringing you down. So be aware of what exactly you are feeling.

I hope that I have at least opened up some thoughts in your minds as to what else is going on in a relationship that is plagued by jealousy. Both sides are equally being punished. We need to LIVE, LOVE & LAUGH more often with each other. Oh and let’s not forget my favorite thing to do...HUGGGGGG!!!!

One thought from my heart to yours:

Say this outload:

"I am always ready to risk.

I am always ready to learn.

I am always ready to test my strength, and so I put my worries aside and just live!"

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Making Relationship Work

Love is ageless, any love that fades is not real, any love that dwindles is not strong..
Don't be deceived, be calm but smart to know who is dating you..

If you refused to face reality; you end up in dead relationship.

WHEN YOU'RE READY TO MAKE IT WORK:

√ First, you must realize that one person doesn't keep relationship, is a collective effort in communication, attention, care and aspirations.

√ The most welcome response to LOVE is Reciprocation.
If you can't reciprocate that feeling, love, attention, time, passion, you will eliminate "Value" and "happiness" in your relationship.

√ Say what you want in a relationship; procrastination, won't make it work..
Time is to expensive in love..

√ Relationship is a sickler, love is the doctor, happiness is its drugs..
If your love is fake it won't work..

√ Making relationship work entails self control and discipline.
Without it, you're dating for fun..

√ Remove "Trust" from any relationship, you're making monkery of yourselves.
To make it work, you MUST trust your partner.

√ Learn to admit your fault and shut up when your right...
Relationship is not a law Court..

√ Don't say you won't talk about it. No! Learn to listen and hear him/her out..
Is a place of correction not condemnation.

√ There is nothing more destructive in a relationship than selfishness..
Change the language from " I" to " We"....

√ Don't date for merriment; date for marriage.
It will guide and guard your intention to your destination.

√ Is good to talk about marriage in your relationship, but don't promise when you're not ready...

√ If your Ex is still in the picture, you won't move forward, let your present have your attention...

Look beyond what you can gain and focus on how to make it work for marriage..

In God We Trust..

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To love and To Care - Episode 4

I have discovered that love doesn't guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot help you stick to one person all year round, and on the other hand, cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner. In fact, loving someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love with someone else.

Relationships work out mostly because of our head not our heart. It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self-discipline because, time will come when you'll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God-fearing people than the one you're in a relationship with.

In those times, love will not help you; self-control will help you, emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going. With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you're committed to will rank first in your life.

You think happily married people don't see better people than the ones they married? You think they don't feel funny sometimes? You think they don't catch feelings? They do!

But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is the great arsenal that do destroy that impulse.

You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love.

We are too fond of loving when it's convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for, sometimes, just the first 3-6 months of the relationship. After then, you'll realize that the feelings have dropped, it's now your responsibility to make it work, not love's responsibility.

Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it's never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence. On the long run in marriages, it's not just love that keeps them together forever, it's determination and commitment.

Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do that.

That's why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself and bridle your emotions.

Building a relationship is hard work, it's like building a career, it’s like pursuing a dream. It’s always tough, at some point it will be so bitter, but you can make it work by putting your heads together, you can scale through the trying time by being focused and committed.

The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together. Be emotionally strong and be self-disciplined.

This article is written by Modupe- A member of daybydaylifelessons

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To love and To Care - Episode 3

To love and to care episode 3,  It’s all about communication and sharing the little things that make up happy family. Below are some tips to make your feelings known;

1. Never underestimate the power of a hug – It helps to renew your love with your partner.

2.  Sit down and talk about your day after the evening meal, a lot of things happened during the day that you can share with your partner.

3. Share an experience. It could be a movie, a new CD, magazine article, or a short story. Talk about what you read or saw and why you liked or disliked it. And do it regularly.

4. Compliments. Everyone loves getting them so never pass up the opportunity to give one of these reliable mood boosters. You can give them in person or write them on a small piece of paper and leave them somewhere unexpected for your loved one to find.

5. Thoughtful gestures. Doing something unexpected, especially when your loved one is busy and stressed, is a lovely way to show that you understand what they are going through and that they have your support.

6. Celebrate all your partner’s successes with them – from a high five to a glass of champagne. Whatever the scale of the success calls for, make it a joint celebration

Do all these mentioned above and you will be happy that you are in love.

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To love and To Care - Part 2

Davidson and Lucy have been close friends for years. They are in love, but they could not express their feelings to each other.

Davidson realized that the reason he was afraid to be in a relationship was because he had no idea how to take care of himself around others. He was completely losing himself in an important relationship. He realized that if he could not speak up for himself with Lucy, how could he ever speak up and take loving action for himself with a woman he was in love with? He realized that he would continue to feel lonely, anxious, inadequate and depressed until he learned to take loving action for himself.

Many people suffer daily from anxiety, depression, stress, and anger as well as from feelings of guilt, shame and inadequacy. The major cause of these feelings is a lack of loving action in their own behalf.

LOVING ACTIONS

Loving actions are those actions that attend to your one’s needs. When you take loving action, you are letting yourself know that you matter, you are important, you count. When you fail to take loving actions, you give yourself the message that you are not important, which leads to feelings of depression and inadequacy.

Loving actions include:

· Eating nutritious foods, getting rid of junk foods and sugar, eating when hungry and quitting when full.

· Getting enough exercise.

· Keeping your work and home environments clean and organized.

· Getting enough sleep.

· Creating a balance between work and play. Making sure you have time to get your work done, as well as time to do nothing, reflect, learn, play and create.

· Creating a good support system of people who love and care about you.

· Being organized with your time, getting places on time, paying bills on time, and so on.

· Choosing to be compassionate with yourself rather than judgmental toward yourself.

· Creating a balance between time for yourself and time with others.

· Making sure you are physically safe by wearing a seat belt in a car, a helmet on a motorcycle, scooter, or bike, goggles when necessary, and so on.

As a result of learning to take better care of himself alone and with others, Davidson no longer felt depressed and inadequate. He gradually lost his fears of being in a relationship and is delighted to be meeting the available woman.

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To Love and Care- Part One

My Life….

I love to read books, she prefers to watch movies. I love to code, she loves to party. I love veggies, she wants junk food. And so, it goes. Both the partners are so different in everything, I wonder how they came together. What can one talk about such relationships?

Many of us are involved in such relationships. One of the partner is a genius and the other could barely pass through the exams. How do such relationships develop and survive? Such relationships developed because both loved each other because of the differences. The differences attracted them. They found each other so different that it was something exciting to them. They loved each other for these differences and so they came to enjoy life as if it were some exciting trip to unknown destinations.

What is the future of such relationships? It is difficult to say. If the love and care that brought them together remains, they will tolerate everything else. Doesn't a mother do everything for her toddler? That is because of love and care. So, if the love remains, everything can be taken care of. If they uphold their care for each other and never ever think of a break-up, then nothing shall break them. However, if the love dwindles, the complaints will rise and vanish the left-over love and the relationship is doomed.

Ask someone if he/she is satisfied with their mate, the answer will expose the magnitude of love between them. Even if they behave alike and the love is lost, they will find imaginary complaints. Satisfaction with one’s mate depends on one factor - love and care. If both love and care for each other they will be satisfied despite a thousand differences or similarities.

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5 Most Common Relationship Killers and How to Avoid Them - DayByDayLifeLessons

Don’t let your relationship fail. Learn the relationship killers and begin to heal the underlying fears that cause these relationship killers.

Keywords:
relationships, relationship help, relationship advice, fear of intimacy, love advice, love

CONTROLLING BEHAVIOR
Most people enter a relationship with a deep fear of rejection, and this fear motivates various forms of controlling behavior. Controlling behavior falls into two major categories – overt control and covert control.

Overt control includes many forms of attack, such as blaming anger, rage, violence, judgment, criticism and ridicule.

Covert control includes compliance, enabling, withdrawal, defending, explaining, lying and denying. Often a person at the other end of attack will respond with some form of covert control in an attempt to have control over not being attacked.

Controlling behavior always results in resentment and emotional distance, bringing about the very rejection that it is meant to avoid.

RESISTANCE
Many people enter a relationship with a deep fear of being engulfed and controlled – of losing themselves. The moment they experience their partner wanting control over them, they respond with resistance – withdrawal, unconsciousness, numbness, forgetfulness, and procrastination.

When one partner is controlling and the other is resistant – which is really an attempt to have control over not being controlled - the relationship becomes immobilized. Partners in this relationship system feel frustrated, stagnant, and resentful.

NEEDINESS
Many people enter a relationship believing that it is their partner’s job to fill their emptiness, take away their aloneness, and make them feel good about themselves. When people have not learned how to take responsibility for their own feelings and needs, and to define their own self-worth, they may pull on their partner and others to fill them with the love they need.

SUBSTANCE AND PROCESS ADDICTIONS
Most people who feel empty inside turn to substance and process addictions in an attempt to fill their emptiness and take away the pain of their aloneness and loneliness. Alcohol and drug abuse, food, spending, gambling, busyness, Internet sex and pornography, affairs, work, TV, accumulating things, beautifying, and so on, can all be used as ways to fill emptiness and avoid fears of failure, inadequacy, rejection and engulfment. And they are all ways of shutting out your partner.

EYES ON PARTNER'S PLATE
Many people are acutely aware of what their partner is doing that is causing relationship problems, but completely unaware of what they are doing. For example, you might be very aware of your partner’s resistance or withdrawal, but totally unaware of your own judgmental behavior. You might be very aware of your partner’s anger, but completely unaware of your own compliance. You might be very aware of your partner’s addictive behavior, but very unaware of your own enabling. As long as your eyes are on your partner instead of on yourself, you will continue to believe that if only your partner changed, everything would be okay.

RESOLVING RELATIONSHIP KILLERS
All relationship killers come from fear – of inadequacy, of failure, of rejection and of engulfment. As long as you are coming from any of these fears, you will be behaving in one or more of the above ways.

The way out is to develop a loving adult self who knows how to take full responsibility for your own feelings and needs. You will move beyond controlling, needy and addictive behavior only when you learn how to fill your self with love and define your own inner worth. When you are willing to take your eyes off your partner’s plate and turn your eyes fully on yourself, you can begin to do the inner healing work necessary to heal yourself and your relationship.

A good place to start is to download our free Inner Bonding ebook and begin to practice the Six Steps of Inner Bonding. The daily practice of these steps will move you out of your addictive and controlling behavior and into the personal responsibility necessary to heal your relationship.

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Do You Have Faith In Your Partner?

Faith is one of the biggest assets. Most of us have faith in God. That means that we always believe that god will help us whenever we call on him. That God will be always support us. That god loves us and wants us to grow. God will never leave us alone. This faith is the greatest strengths of many of us. What about your partner? Do you have this kind of faith in him/her? 

Many will answer that I have that faith in my partner. That is good. At least they have that faith. Many of you will not be sure about the answer and quite many know that they cannot have faith in their partner. Does your partner have faith in you? Why don't you ask this question and find out the answer? Please ask him/her - Darling, suppose I have someone else in my life for a short time and then come to you and confess will our relations remain the same? Will you forgive me and forget what I did and accept me? Will we be together as we are today? The answer may differ from person to person, but you will rarely find a partner who accepts this.

As you broke his/her faith, how can you expect that their faith will remain intact? That you can expect them to support you after you betray them? That sounds difficult. Faith does not work that simply. Faith works on commitment. If you are committed to your partner and if your partner is a reliable person of integrity, you may have faith in him/her to a certain extent. To say that my partner will always be with me under all circumstances is difficult to say. Only few are lucky to have such partners.

What should we do? Draw an agreement verbally. Commit yourself fully and ask your partner to have faith in you always. Ask him/her to commit that you can have the same faith in them. Give proofs from time to time and you will win unshakeable faith of your partner. Once you have that faith, you will feel a great sense of relief because you are sure that your partner will never leave you. 

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Solutions to the Issues of Money Problem in Your Marriage (Very Important)

You are Getting Married to the Love of your life. If You Believe It, Type AMEN! Like and Share

Most marriages have their financial ups and downs. It can truly be a test to your relationship with your partner in dealing with the downs in particular. Here are some tips to help you deal with these situations in the quickest way possible.

1.) Pick the Right Time. Find a non stress time to sit down and have a discussion with your partner. Me and my husband love to go on evenings out, because it gives us a chance to discuss important issues in a non stress environment. If you must stay home, make sure the kids are not present during the conversation.

2.) Write down the matters you have been thinking about beforehand so that you can stay on track during your discussion.

3.) Don’t Get Emotional. Avoid personal attacks towards your spouse. Use “I” instead of “you” when speaking. Don’t be argumentative and state how you feel. Don’t point fingers, and don’t start a fight.

4.) Take Turns. Common courtesy will help you achieve your goals. Feeling equal to your partner will come with a general respect between you and your partner.

5.) Make a Plan. Discuss the situation and future plans with your spouse. Make sure you have a basic budget in place and discuss you and your partner’s vital steps in your financial future. Compile a money to-do list and check your progress often.

Remember the love you have for each other during the conversation, and listen

Also to what your partner has to say during the discussion. If it seems to be a bad time in general to talk about it, remember that there will be another opportunity to let your partner know how you feel. Let it go, and pick a better time in the future.

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How to Improve Your Relationship(Very Important)

Here are some tried and true tips from people who have enjoyed long, happy relationships.

1. REFRESH – Take time to look back, refresh your memories and share what brought you together. Especially when life is difficult, rely on these old memories as your foundation and discuss how you can live a better life together.

2. FORGET – No need to “always” remember the bad things that happened during an argument. Actively “forget” sometimes. Be the first to apologize and make up. You can also read Say No To Anger And Create Joy In Your Relationships

3. DISAGREE – Agree that it’s okay to disagree on some issues, and leave it at that. You don’t HAVE to agree on everything. And you won’t. And that’s okay.  You can read 4 TIPS TO BUILD UP A GOOD FAMILY AND RESOLVE ANY ISSUES WITH YOUR PARTNER

4. MEMORIES – Make some together. Enjoy special moments, special anniversary dates and events. No need to be elaborate Make it an annual event. And when you are together later in the day without friends and family, play some games, and have some romancing movement …over time it becomes a theme.

5. FUN AND DATES – Couple tend to have fun on dates. Even if life seems too busy, create time for your relationship. Go out and have fun together. Also play some games, it’s necessary.  You can also How to Keep your Marriage Lively and Enjoyable

So don’t just sit back. Take short steps to improve your relationships and let life’s problems magically pass by while you hold on to your relationship.

Improving relationships require knowing what to do and how to do it. If you follow some tried and true tips, it is possible you can also improve your relationships.

Here is another useful relationship article What makes a Good Marriage "Good"- You are not too young to know these.

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